Dating stages intimacy
If you don't have even information at that level, feel free to tell him that you want some time to think and pray about it (that is, if you're not sure at that point that you're not interested).Then — in addition to actually thinking and praying about it — ask one of your pastors or elders whether he knows him and what he thinks.
From there, you obviously need a response from the woman to know whether or not things will go any further.Whatever that conversation looks like, intentions should be clear and it should be the man making them so.Guys, tell her why you have initiated or are initiating with her, tell her that you intend to pursue the relationship to determine if marriage is the right choice before God.If the pastor or elder you ask doesn't know him well, he can guide you to a trustworthy source that knows him better.If you know the man well or at least better than what I've just described, but you are not sure whether you are interested in him, I'd encourage you to at least take some time to get to know him before giving an unequivocal "no." Keep in mind that this is different from feigning interest when there isn't any.
The idea is to remove that period of confusion or vulnerability for the woman by being forthright about what level of intention or commitment exists (a la 1 Thessalonians 4).